Okay, not nuts, because I try not to let people’s lack of respect or common sense take over my emotions. Still, there are plenty of people out there who either don’t get it, or just don’t care. Unfortunately, those of us who grew up learning old-school have to wonder how so many think our actions or inactions don’t affect others.
Here’s 10 things people do that make me wonder if we need to require common sense & respect classes in our schools. After all, we learn by example:
- Shopping carts on the loose. Seriously, how difficult is it to walk 20 feet to secure a cart between bars? No drop-off points? I’m gonna bet the majority of people could use the exercise. It’s called respect for other people’s property. Learn it, and reap the benefits (a blemish-free vehicle).
- Headphone-less YouTube watching. I’m amazed that watching online videos sans headphones in restaurants and coffee shops is considered acceptable by the people who commit this disrespectful act. Even worse? Personal, heated conversations conducted via speakerphone.
- Leaving the mess behind. I don’t care if it’s in a movie theatre or on a park bench. If you make a mess, clean it up. It’s that simple. Lately people have been leaving plates on tables outside of Starbucks. They attract ants, and make it so the next customer has nowhere to sit.
- The bathroom. I hate to even say it (and I shouldn’t have to). Ladies, if you’re not going to sit, lift the seat…and flush.
- Screaming at your kid. If you can’t control your temper, get help. If you think the embarrassment of screaming at your child in public works, you’re wrong. Save the kid some undue trauma, and the rest of us some headache, by simply stepping to the side. And if it’s the other way around? If you’re child’s having a fit, step outside.
- Talking TO me instead of WITH me. First, learn the proper way to initiate a conversation. If you call me on the phone and say, “I want to talk to you,” it has a negative affect. Second, the best way to gain anyone’s respect is to talk… and listen… and that is talking WITH someone.
- Presenting selfish actions or statements as fact, or representative of the majority. I understand you may or may not like a certain movie or the way I recycle or run my business, but you can’t argue your personal thoughts as fact and you probably don’t represent everyone else. An opinion is just that. Present it that way, and I’ll respect your method of communicating it.
- Guaranteeing something you cannot guarantee. I have a rule of thumb with my clients – and they know it… I cannot guarantee that certain actions will garner them the same results as another company. It’s a smart statement because guarantees not only cost me money, it increases their frustration when things don’t turn out as planned. So, all you service providers, especially SEO gurus, stop telling me, or clients, that results are guaranteed. Business owners want the people they hire to be original and have a clear understanding of the company’s goals. They’d rather invest in a project that has a decent chance of success, than to spend less and waste months of time.
- Tunnel vision. In both my personal and professional life, tunnel vision just irks me. When you grow irritated with my husband (who is blind) because he doesn’t know you’re talking to him, it’s clear you’re not using eye contact – if you did, you’d realize he needs more than just a distant voice to direct him into a conversation. When you refuse to hear others’ ideas because you see every “path” as a one-way, straight road, you’re crippling your business. Tunnel vision is a turn-off.
- Dismissing how others perceive what you say. You may have meant well, but it’s all about perception. What we say has different meanings to different people. By adjusting your comments (or attitude) for each person you speak with you can save yourself a good many headaches
So, what drives you crazy? Grocery store lines? Busy signals? Phone prompts? How can we all learn from each other and grow?